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I wonder if these women like the contrast of beta and alpha, or if they’d like pure alpha even more. I think the combo might be perfect, at least for women looking for more than sex and disrespectful treatment.
I continue to be amazed at how many women confuse comfort with attraction. They skip over the attraction part and go right to the comfort building behaviors they really want to see. This is because, I think, women aren’t conscious of what they find attractive. They do not consciously decide a man is attractive. All she knows is that she is attracted to him. And it is the very rare woman who can really articulate what she finds attractive.
This is one reason why women describe the comfort behaviors when asked to describe what they find attractive. Ask a typical woman what she finds attractive in a man, and you hear things like “he is nice, polite, acts like he cares about me, he’s a good conversationalist, makes me feel special, he does little things for me, we have a lot in common, he has a good sense of humor.” Any student of Game can tell you she is describing what makes her comfortable, not what attracts her.
It is as if we need to return to Game/Charisma 101. “Be nice, be yourself” does not build attraction. Again: Be nice, be yourself is NOT attractive.
No one tells young boys and men how to be attractive. It is as if everyone, including parents, teachers, religious leaders and other authority figures simply assume boys and men just know how to be attractive. Hence we are treated to people like Amanda Marcotte spewing things to men such as (paraphrasing here) “the onus is on men not to be creepy”, and other things like “well, if you want women to be attracted to you, then be more attractive.”
Again, male behaviors that women find attractive, (not comfortable, attractive) are confidence, dominance, and displays of power and charisma. And this is why the debate rages, because there are a lot of women who don’t want to admit that Game works and helps men become more attractive, as long as men internalize the behaviors and really become what they project and present.
136 Badger October 23, 2011 at 11:07 am
“Figure out your stats… If you get 10 rejections for every yes, then you need to burn through 10 noes to get your next yes. And that next yes is an opportunity to show off your new confidence skills. ”
I’m second to none in understanding the probabilistic nature of modern mating, but this is another “it shouldn’t be this hard” moment for me. Generating your own leads is hard work, and rejection is disappointing business. Another reason most guys won’t/can’t become players and PUAs – they just can’t take the dozens upon dozens of rejections it takes while honing a new personality.
Yet there the women are telling them to just “keep trying” ’cause you’ll get lucky eventually.